As a human being the highest form of knowledge I've attained was through percise understanding of others; no matter how seemingly 'different' they are from you.
If you trust them you will understand them. If their words are pure and they are not lying you will suddenly see truths hit you like an avalanch if you learn self-awaraness; before leaping over to actualy true awareness of others on a subconsious level.
It is the most liberating experience I have ever felt.
I figured it out: stress is addiction.
AS in stress produces the addiction itself. To defeat addiction you eliminate stress by picking off each 'stressor' in life like a sniper.
every source of massive stress must be taken out with a sniper rifle. As you do this you will also notice metabolism naturally restore. AT this point a 'former addict' will actually appear to be 'more attractive'. Their muscles will tone, their skin will clear, wrinkles will lighten or vanish; confidence will return to normal.
Tonight I realized when walking with an 'addict' friend that stress is in fact the real demon of the current age.
When one is stressed it creates and even fuels all sorts of serious problems like a wild-fire. The most serious result of a wild-fire that I have come face to face with is heroin addiction itself.
Yet an addiction treated by breaking the stress of the environment itself with proper supplementation of pregnenalone, nicinamide, aspirin will cure the 'disease'. The final blow to addiction is adding purpose to ones life and obliterating any sense of victim mentality.
If you really want to end addiction it can really help to be in true love with someone both sexually and mentally. This will melt stressors away and an 'addict' will suddenly find themselves 'barely using heroin' and having sex for days straight; this is love.
Supplement pregnenalone, nicinamidde and aspirin at proper dosage daily. this is step 1.
Unconditional love in this case. But the love has to be mutual. If your mom loves you it doesn't matter because a childs love for their parent isn't unconditional, but a parents for their childrens always is. This is wired in at a subconsious level.
Take out major stressors with a sniper rifle.
Any recoccuring massive dramas: in this case a stalker ex isn't helping.
Improve the life-style.
If you like the beach nothing is more theraputic. In addition, experience new things and have something to look forward too.
In this case purpose in work defeating the victim mentality through ACTION ... MASSIVE ACTION... you will have to drag them 'kicking and screaming' at first until you re-wire their brain through action.
Becasue the human brain is lazy; it will always take the path of least resistance that produces seemingly the most 'short term comfort'.
You can drag someone who loves you out of this bull-shit victim mentality by walking them through it in a loving way at first. It's not dragging them; you simply re-wire the brain with love as the motivator... at first... until the work itself replaces love. .. or maybe love wins?